Supporting children in need of care and protection to make informed career decisions post 10th grade! Do you remember what it was like when you were in 10th grade – How did you feel? What were your fears? What were your aspirations? As a 10th grader, I was afraid of scoring below 90%, I was […]Career Decision Making – Why, What and How
I don’t believe any couple or set of friends that tell me “We don’t fight” or “We don’t argue”. It is virtually impossible to be genuine friends with someone without reaching some sort of conflict. If you really are in are in a relationship where you “never fight”, I just assume that neither of you […]When Conversations Get Crucial: Navigating Arguments in a Healthy Manner
Unpacking gender, religion woes, respectability politics, sexual liberation, & identity. Gender: Girl. Young girls are always held to a higher standard of purity and innocence. Boys on the other hand, are encouraged to be free and taught to explore their desires. I always wondered, why is that?. The minute girls are born into the world […]Pleasure is My Birth Right
Forced into a second wave of Isolation
To prevent Covid 19 extension
News sends ice down my arteries
Endless thirst for water to refill sweaty skin
Fingers vibrate in perturbation
Over analyse Government instruction
Recall previous periodof hunger
Moments of tears inside my locker
Push it beneath my awareness
Deny its existence
Believe I will cope once more
As I anticipate the cure
Almost every man watches porn. But in recent years, the proportion of women in the porn audience has been growing. What does this shift mean? DW asked a sociologist and an evolutionary biologist. Women do not usually watch porn. Or do they? According to recent surveys by popular porn websites such as PornHub and xHamster, […]Women watch porn, too — but why?
Show me I am beautiful
Worthy to be pursued
awaken my Feminine quality
And discover my identity
Not just a sperm receiver
Or your house cleaner
But a listener
To listen to my heart whispers
In the absence of one
I stood alone
Turn to destructive addiction
To cure the moment of Isolation
Hide my anxiety
Behind a submissive personality
The first man that should shower me love
Never found me worthy enough
“Sir, you must forgive my sister…She is not ordinarily quite so outspoken” Miss Austen by Gill Hornby Do we like women who speak their minds? And when I say “we” I mean both men and women. Back in Austen’s day, we know that outspoken women were looked down upon. Just think of what we thought […]Speak Out
Beginning a conversation about sexuality early and continuing that conversation as the child grows is the best sex education strategy. It lets parents avoid giving one big talk when the child reaches adolescence, when they may think they already have the information and won’t be receptive. When talking to your kids about sex, it’s important […]Talking Sex Ed with Kids Part 2
No one enjoys life more
Than one who is willing and ready to die
It is only in the face of death
That One is truely born
Learning to Live well
Is to learn to die well
Dying badly is for those who lived badly
Death is not simply the last moment of life
In birth, our journey towards death begin
Why do you fear the last day
It contributes no more to your death than each of the others
Although the physicality of death destroys man
The idea of death Saves him
Everybody dies but not everybody lives
To live does not mean you are alive
Every Religion claims it’s teaching is the truth. Often times, teachings contradict. Truth cannot be A and be not A. One is definitely wrong. Truth is same every where. If any truth exist at all,it shout be that common saying which is found in all world Religion. Every mathematics textbook agrees that one + one is two.
To be certain that our belief is true, we ought to compare them with other scriptures and search for similarities and differences. The similarities draws us closer to the truth while the differences makes us question it’s authenticity. But we don’t want see the possibility that we might have been wrong. We try not to investigate . We call it faith.
Faith is the enemy of truth seeking. By hoping something is true or going to be true does not make it true.To believe in things that are not true can be dangerous.It is worse than gambling.We want our belief to be true so badly that we ignore evidence,reason and our common sence.
If your virgin daughter tells you she is pregnant, we will not believe her. If your teacher tells you be split the sun into three parts,we will call him a liar. We would spread the stories if we found them in an ancient scripture.
We believe In a book that somebody told us that somebody told the person that another person said is true without making attempt to verify its authenticity. This is second hand truth and second hand truth is called hearsay . Lawyers are aware that second hand truth is subjected to mistake so they do not admit it in the court of law . Truth should be based on experience.Eye withness testimony Is admissible in the court of law.
I heard a group tried to test the effectiveness of prayer. They had a group of sick patient prayed for and another group to act as control. The former recovered quicker. This is an example of ones belief tested. You may replicate it if you like. By checking your claim, you become more confident of it’s authenticity.
The piece below, which just appeared in the prestigious New England Journal of Medicine, has three co-authors (two medical doctors and a lawyer) calling for removing sex designations from birth certificates—or at least putting them “below the line of demarcation,” which I guess means putting them where they are not publicly accessible. Click on the […]New England Journal of Medicine piece calls for removing sex designations from birth certificates
What’s encouraging words to say to someone going through a difficult time? People are going through a difficult phase in their life sometimes. They need support to keep going from their closest ones. This is extremely important because sometimes these phases drain the life out of them and will make them prone to giving up. You can help them and raise them up.
Words to Say to Someone Going Through a Difficult Time
Giving support can come in many ways and one of them is through words. There are some words that are naturally soothing. If you do this, you might save a life! So, here are words to say to someone going through a difficult time:
Sometimes, it is best to say nothing and to just wholeheartedly listen to what they are anxious, sad, or worried about. Doing this will relieve their burden and help them go into a better mental state.
2. Tell them it’s okay to feel what you feel
Sometimes people try so hard to stop being sad or negative that actually it gets nowhere. Tell them that it is okay to feel these things because it will make the recovery faster.
3. I’m sorry that you are going through this
Saying this shows your sympathy or empathy. It will make them realize that they are not alone in feeling this way. This also shows that you are here for them.
4. I will always be here for you
Best things to say to someone going through a hard time is “I will always be here for you”. It’s simple and shooting for them. Knowing that someone is there behind your back and always ready to pull you up is a comforting and rare thing.
5. Let go of the blame
It is easy to blame things or even themselves when something catastrophic happens to someone’s life. Saying this will remind them to loosen up to forgive and forget.
6. Time will heal
This is classic advice, but it’s alway true. You may not know how the future will turn out but you can promise them that this too shall pass. When time has passed, things will seem lighter and brighter. That is why you just need to hang on.
7. You are bigger than this
Encouraging words to say to someone going through a hard time are “you are bigger than this problem”. People easily feel small when they are faced by something tremendously hard. Because of that reason, you need to remind them of their strength and capability to get through it.
8. If you need help just say the word
Offering help gives plenty of relief to an anxiety and sadness induced mind. saying this will make them more relaxed and happy.
9. you’ve been down before, and you can get through this again
Reminding them about their strength that is actually already hidden deep inside them is a great way to put them back on their feet. It’s the wisest motivation to show to your loved ones when they are in pain.
10. Take one step at a time
Most of the time, people feel overwhelmed by the big image of the future to the point where they feel paralized. Remind them to focus on the next few steps and then keep going for the next move. They will feel nothing seems impossible.
11. There are more things to look forward to
Remind them to take a look at the small things to be grateful for that might happen in the future. If you do this, you are giving them the drive to live one more day and then another brighter day.
12. I am so proud of you
Even when they are a mess, say this. Because saying this will make them feel proud of themselves too and it will make the day go way better.
13. Focus on the present
When feeling sad, people usually dwell with the past for too long. This makes them more miserable. Tell them to focus on the now where nothing bad is happening and they are safe.
14. It’s not the end
Telling them that there is more to come and that this is not the end is a great way to boost their spirits. It reminds them that there is more to life that is much more beautifully captivating.
15. Tell them you love them
“I love you and I am here for you” are the best words to say to someone going through a difficult time. When they feel loved, they have more reasons to keep going. They know they need to keep trying for a brighter future with your love.
16. Nothing but hug them
Sometimes, anything you said will mean nothing when they are going through a difficult time. Meanwhile, you can give them a hug. A long deep hug to tell them that it’s gonna be okay. It is going to be okay.
There are more words to say to someone going through a difficult time, but your present in their life means the most. You also need to listen to them and keep staying with them until they feel better and can think clearer.
Best things to say to someone going through a hard time
These words will make them more relaxed. It will set them to the path of self recovery and self love. Here are more words to say to someone going through a difficult time:
1. Remember to be kind to yourself
People often forget to take care of themselves with the most basic things. Not taking care of one’s self might make them more sluggish and prone to sadness.
2. Life happens
By reminding them that life happens, make them take off the blame and unstuck feelings to the problem. Tell them that shits happen all the time, but we need to keep fighting and fighting.
3. You did a great job
Tell them that they’ve done the best they could. This will make them feel a little bit happier. You can also tell them that they can alway try and try again until they succeed.
4. Take all the time that you need to heal
Knowing that they have time to heal will actually make them more relaxed and positive. Tell them that you will help anything as you can to help them feel better.
5. Just because something isn’t happening to you now, it doesn’t mean it never will
Remind them that positive things will come and we just have to put a little bit of faith on it. It might not happen today, but who will know if it will come true tomorrow, so keep fighting.
Signs that they are back to their positive state of mind
Signs that they are back on their feet because of your positive encouragements:
The words to say to someone going through a difficult time is not much. It focuses on building a safe place for the person to let go, heal, and eventually grow. Keep in mind the wise word to get people out of the rut. After that, see if they already have the signs that they are back to their positive state of mind.
Meanwhile, you may pick up those lines to help people, to make them feel okay. Indeed, we could make people feel better by showing our love through words to them. Cause we know, time flies, and everything can turn to be wrong and hurt if we don’t say good things now.
The words we never spoke
Broke us apart
Grudges burning slowly
For several years
How long shall we continue
To be in a passionless union
Strangers sharing one roof
Pretending all is well
It is high time we begin to think
Of going our saperate ways
As painless as possible
I truely love you
But I can no longer live with you
I have forgiven you
But I cannot forget the things you did
Replayed in my head each time I see you
One single act
Makes me not to trust you completely
But I cannot forget that
I see you trying to be perfect
I see how hard you try
To make me happy
You deviate from your true self
In other to please me
You will eventually get tired
Until you finally resent me
But our frequency differ
You want it twice a day
I want it monthly
The times I turned you down
I pushed you off me
Into the waiting arms of another.
I made you cheat on me
And then hate you for it
Each time I try to please you
You are happy
While I am hurt
You suggested an open relationship
But I want you all to myself
We are not compatible
It was a mistake from the beginning
Loyalty is a curse
We are better off going our saperate ways
Goodbye my Lover
I hope you meet your match
We attach too much power to our belief. This can be counter productive. One who believes his religion is the best in morals would be dissapointed to find out they the religious leaders is involved in immoral activities. He may be dissapointed and vow to change church.
Another who strongly tithe regularly may feel betrayed for being sacked. It is like the God did not fulfill his own part of the bargain. This may lead to a rejection of all Religion
Someone who love violence would look for the biblical verse justifying violence perpetuate his act.
When we nurture a belief into truth, it becomes serious. We cannot no longer joke out of them.
At the tender age of twenty two, A twenty two year old unknown player made the list of Germany’s squad for the world cup finals in South Africa. That player went on to register three assist in the competition helping the team to the third place. His name is Mesut OZIL.
He attracted the interest of many clubs until Jose Mourinho snapped him up for Spanish giant side real Madrid.
He excelled well in Realmadrid when Cristiano Ronaldo and Benzema were physically present to take the pressure off him. No one considered him a threat. He would sneak in unmasked and provide assistance.
When Jose mourinho left, Ozil place in the team was threatened. The Spanish giant Carlos A ncelotti to manage the club. The italian manager attempted to sign Gareth Bale, James Rodriguez and to a squad that has Luka Modric, Mesut Ozil and Do Maria. It was obvious there would be competition. Ozil hates competition.He prefers Cooperation. He left Madrid to s team where he would not struggle with anyone for a starting line up. Job security matters more to him. Arsene Wengar came knocking and he jumped at the offer. He settled well at arsenal. His desire to assist suits Arsene Wengar passing style The link up play with Alexis Sanches was wonderful especially when the Chilean was drafted further up the pitch. The Chilean was the target man. Ozil was the visionary . Sanchez filled in the boots of christiano Ronaldo . He took some pressure off the shoulder of Ozil. Alex Sanchez transfer reluctance to extend his contract caused division among the squad. Mesut Ozil dislikes conflict. He thrives best amidst peaceful environment. As Alexis Sanchez finally left, Arsenal fans looked up to the German playmaker to propel the team to success. Mesut Ozil is not one to carry the burden of the team on his head.He He needs someone he could look up to within the squad. A tough,strong and aggressive attacker . Someone with the ego of Ibrahimovic. Mesut began to drop in performance. He wanted to leave too but his agent thought it wiser to scare off the gunners board with an outrageous wage demand. Having lost Sanchez, the board was Keen to hold on to the German at all costs.They signed the contract much to the disappointment of the German. Lucrative contract did not Improve his performance. Ozil is not motivated by money. He is internally motivated.
The same thing happened in the national team. Germany’s Klose and Podolski were German hit men during the 2014 and 2010 world cup. The fans relied on them before each tournament. When the duo retired, Ozil became the most capped attacker .German fans looked up to Ozil for goals and assist .but consequently he failed to deliver. His weak nervous system breaks down easily whenever much expectation is placed on it. Sane would have helped but Sane was not in the squad.
Dissapointed fans condemned him for not playing up to their expectation. Ozil hit back at them .Ozil reacts badly to critism.He takes critism personally. He turned his back on a country that helped shape his career after he was criticised.
The Turkish management should take this in mind while coaching Ozil. He excels best in a system he can trust. The coaches need to focus on establishing a positive relationship with him in other to maximize his potential.
The transfer has more to do with arsenal desire to offload him and Ozil desire to unite with his newly adopted dominated muslimcountry . I do not see Mesut transforming the club to success overnight. OZIL lacks the ability to do so as discussed earlier . Morever, he has not been actively involved in the field for months . He will need time to . I wish him the best as he begins a new chapter.