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7 Types of Rest Everyone Needs

How is it with the world’s vast technological advantages that people seem even more tired? You have all those computerized gadgets that are supposed to save you time and energy, yet you feel chronically exhausted. Although your sleep may be okay, you may not be getting the types of rest you need. UNDERSTANDING THE DIFFERENCES […]

7 Types of Rest Everyone Needs
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10 Levels Of Consciousness

There are ten levels of consciousness between identifying with (internalizing) your environment or choosing to transform from within by heart. At the first level of consciousness you identify completely with your environment whether rich or poor, peaceful or warlike, cruel or loving At the 1st level of consciousness you accept your social and physical environments as […]

10 Levels Of Consciousness
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Be your own happiness

When we search outside ourselves for someone or something to fulfil us, to bring us happiness, to fix us, to…whatever, it never brings us anything other than disappointment. We place an expectation on things, events, other people and so on, however, it always fails as things, people etc will always fall short of our expectation. […]

Be your own happiness
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Do We Owe Our Spouses Sex?

At some point over the past few years since becoming a mom, I became a subscriber to the popular Mommy blog Scary Mommy. By subscriber I mean I’m on their email list- I’m certainly not paying them. Anyway, here lately I’ve noticed a preponderance of posts about how women do not owe their husbands sex. […]

Do We Owe Our Spouses Sex?
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Pushing Through The Unexpected

Nothing is certain in our life. When the Universe decides to make a twist or turn it does not need your permission nor will it ask you for it. It does not pick a preference as to whom it targets. It merely runs it’s course on its own accord. You could be the most organized […]

Pushing Through The Unexpected
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How do you define yourself? What are the main characteristics that encompass who you are? Is it a strong work ethic or athletic, musical, or artistic talent? Perhaps generosity or courage or fortitude? For me it’s always been my intelligence & my kindness. Throughout my whole life the main feedback I’ve ever received from the […]

The Perfectionist Conundrum
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10 Ways to get what you wish

thanks for using sakkemoto.com today 10 ways to attract what you wish Lets start so you can get what you want on sakkemoto dot COM so Do you have all that you need in your life? We are not simply discussing cash and abundance here. Do you have your optimal accomplice? Is your well being […]

10 Ways to get what you wish
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A brief how and why of phobias

Do you ever feel a sudden sense of panic about something that other people find innocuous? Your friends tell you that it’s harmless, but you can’t help feeling that sudden tightness in your chest and the compulsion to get away? Maybe you’re a bit embarrassed about it … join the club, there are thousands of […]

A brief how and why of phobias
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Mass Psychology and Propaganda in Politics

For Edward Bernays, the conscious and intelligent manipulation of the organized habits and opinions of the masses is an important element in democratic society. Those who manipulate this unseen mechanism of society constitute an invisible government which is the true ruling power of our country. We are governed, our minds are molded, our tastes formed, […]

Mass Psychology and Propaganda in Politics
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Mad or Unique

THE Pharisees AND Sadducees WERE waiting for coming of savior

They had their own idea if how Jesus would come

Jesus came

The Jesus that came differed from their expectations

They rejected him

THEY STILL AWAIT HIM

FAST FOWARD TO TODAT

Jesus said he would come again

We await second coming of Jesus

Bible warned us to be careful of the false Christ

Many people have claimed to be Jesus

We discarded them all
we are still waiting for real Jesus

IS IT possible that in the process of discarding fake Christ, we also discarded the true Christ

If Jesus were to come again, we may reject him and accuse him of being possessed or mad.

William Hush(1992), a Psychiatrist who has treated a number of mentally abnormal persons claimed Jesus was Paranoid. He is not the first person to do so. The sanity of Jesus has been questioned begining from the biblical times (Mark 3: 21, John 7: 20)

Numerous Psychiatrist have linked Jesus to showing traits of grandiosity,an inflated sence of his own power as well as difficulty communicating with others. Multiple personality disorder, schizophrenia, Hyperreligiosity, paranoia, suicide by proxy, schizoaffective disorder etc have been attributed to the founder of Christianity.

A more recent study(2012) by a group of neurologist, Psychiatrist, psychologist,and behavioral scientist From Havard medical school claimed that major biblical characters like Moses,Paul and Jesus all testsd positive to mental disorder from the DSM IV.

None of these scientist withnesed the reign of Jesus and hence diagnosed based on interpretation of scriptural writing. It is not impossible to rule out a misdiagnosis .

If biblical figures were to come back again and repeat the same actions as written in the Bible, we may be guilty of similar diagnosis. Take for instance, a man chasing grasshopper and bees in the forest asks to pour water on your head is likely to be called a lunatic but the Bible tells us John the Baptist fed on locust and honey in the bush. He baptised the people.

Or Abraham who heard a noise and left his home to an unknown destination. That would be considered abnormal In this modern society.

Sometimes we are quick to slam a label on people for behaving different or having different thoughts from the majority. Yet we forget that our sacred scripture contains saints who exhibited the same traits . Sometimes, we begin to find excuses for our saints.

If only we can stop trying to fix people in a box and stop trying to expect everyone to conform, think or behave the same way. If only we can amsee individual difference as something positive,. We may begin to appreciate the beauty in abnormality.

Be Authentic, Be unique. Be True, Be you

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Comfortable

You can never come too close for comfort. Once you’re comfortable with the way you dress, you express yourself a lot more, and you’re able to have a lot more fun. When it comes to wearing clothes, I spent so much of my life optimizing for comfort over style. You can imagine my surprise discovering […]

Comfortable
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PSYCHOLOGY OF ANGER

I love this and I thought of sharing it with you. A professor while teaching, asked his students, “Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?” The students thought for awhile. One said, “because we lose our calmness” But the professor asked again, “why shout when […]

PSYCHOLOGY OF ANGER
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REMINDER: PREACHERS HAVEN’T PERFECTED EVERYTHING THEY PREACH…

Let me first say that this article is in no way excusing the sin, shortcomings of weaknesses of any preacher, but rather acknowledging them. I know that God expects us as ministers and teachers to set the standard of behavior and holds us to a higher degree of accountability. 1 Peter 5:2 (NKJV) 2 Shepherd the flock […]

REMINDER: PREACHERS HAVEN’T PERFECTED EVERYTHING THEY PREACH…
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Good Killers

Children grow up to obey authorities. They receive approval, praise and reward for doing what authority approves and receive disapproval for non-compliance. Their cognitive abilities is still developing so they are unable to distinguish what is right from what is wrong independently.

Children take this teaching to adulthood even when the thinking ability to reason is fully developed. Grown up children are quick to obey authorities even in times when doing so is immoral. While that of children is understandable as. Incompetency to distinguish between what good from what is bad, adult who commit the same act are out of cowardice . They do not want to be held liable to the consequence of their action so would rather hand the decision-making to an external agent .

For example, an armed robber who threatens one to give away a percentage of his money or risk getting killed is not a perceived as an authority by The victim . The government through its law enforcement agents like Police may threaten you to give wm a percentage of your money or risk going to jail. The clergy threaten one to give away with a certain percentage of his money or risk external damnation. The armed robber is not an authority and the victim will not feel guilty for resisting him but to resist the clergy or the police would be seen as illegal or immoral. The police and the preacher are seeing as agents of authority who act on behalf of government and God respectively whereas. In that case, it is the individual perception of authority that matters.

Sometimes this blind allegiance to authority distort our ability to differentiate what is good from what is bad. It is wrong to kill your fellow man. But when the perceived authority asks one to do so, he is expected to comply. The effect of this can be disastrous. When an “bad” person gets to the seat of power and gives a bad directive, good people tuned down their moral conscience and obey. Adolph Hitler on his own can kill a handful of persons at a time but Adolph Hitler as the commander General of the arm forces can kill a million persons. In other words,. Adolph Hitler is not the problem but the good-hearted soldiers who would never hurt a fly but kill their fellow human without guilt on the order of authority. Religion is not the problem but the good-hearted persons who will not hesitate to butcher their fellow human on the command if the religious books and leaders whom they perceive as agents of supreme Authority.

The authority understands that to continue to have control over their subjects, they have to instill the doctrine of blind obedience. Law enforcement agencies do not encourage their staff to question their superior decision. To disobey a superior immoral order could amount to severe consequence. My heart goes to the dead soldiers who risk their lives believing they are fighting for a just cause whereas they were used as Pawns fighting for the politician who would not do the same for them. Religion encourages members not to ask question. Blind obedience which is nicknamed ” Faith” is emphasized as a sign of a true believer. Whoever question the holy book is a doubter, heretic and should be stoned to death. Health authorities and Scientist tells us vaccine they approved are effective and we must believe them and take them against our will. Whoever posts information doubting the safety of the vaccine is accused of posting false information and the website banned. Meanwhile, scientist are accused of inventing the same virus in a laboratory. Yet we are to believe and obey them . Can one preside over a case where he is a suspect? Medical autonomy is thrown to the wind. Individuals no longer have the right to choose their medication. Soon, authority will choose our food for us. Authority comes in various shades

The aim of this article is not eradicate authority completely. Like Dr Milgram said, obedience to authority may be necessary in certain context . No Individual is inherently good or bad . Individuals can apply golden rule when making decisions. Any of us can fall victim to the pressure of the situation and would love to be treated fairly. Power changes hand. A jailer today might be a prisoner tomorrow. Abba

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The crime of being Natural

We came out of our mother’s womb naked. At three, it is accepted to walk around the same way but by the time we reach seven, we are shamed for attempting to walk in the Same way we arrived at the earth . Gradually, we teach the girls to become so focused on societal perception on her body that she she becomes uncomfortable in her own skin. She rejects her true self for a covering- a cloth , to fit into the society. This does not stop there, she learns to hide her real thoughts, beliefs,values and emotions and learn to be a hypocrite.

Since she is unable to be her true self, she learns to shame those who attempt to be authentic. Deep within, she envies them for having the courage to live their own lives. If we are shaming those who choose to walk naked, we are indirectly telling the creator he did a terrible job. We are on obnoxiously questioning his rationale for bringing us in this world naked in the first place. Which right thinking person would light light up a candle and hide it under the bed ? Which right thinking artist would mould a sculpture and cover it? Did our books not tell us that early man roamed about naked? At what point did nudity become a taboo?

Clothes were worn in those days sparingly for protection against adverse weather condition. Today it has become a law . Psychologist have pondered why the older we get, the more uncomfortable we feel in our own skin . Abraham Mascow, attributed the taboo on nudity more on societal norm than on ethical grounds . We have been conditioned into feeling uncomfortable in the presence of any nudity. The term ” gymnophobia” has been coined to describe the psychological aversion to nudity

Some religion tell us that the human body is shameful and to expose any portion of it except the face or the hands is an offence. Many religion cannot draw the demarcation between nudity and sexual. It is believed that mere exposure of a body incites sexual thought and behavior in the opposite gender. Is nudity the problem or the mind? This mindset has led to rape victims being blamed as partner in crime.

As a result, people who chose to embrace nudity were viewed by mental health professional as psychological dysfunctional. It was until 1930 that the former president of American psychology Association , Howard Warren (1933) observed a group of persons camping naked for weeks. At the end of the camping, he noticed that participants became more open and trusting of each other. This led to a proposed theory that when strangers that nude at an early stage are more likely to enjoy be open and trust each other . This led to the birth of a new therapeutic movement which uses non- sexual social nudity as a means to improve individual mental health. A more recent publication by Renowned professor of psychology , West K (2018) shows that people who practice nudity tends to have higher body image, high self esteem and better life satisfaction.

Recent studies are beginning to link constant putting on bras with ill health including breast cancer. Guys who put on tight boxers are likely encounter problems in their reproductive system. The very clothes we crave may be causing problem yet social pressure compels us to put on clothes.

Before you put on that piece of cloth, question your rationale behind it. Are you putting it on for you or for others. Before you condemn that person for dressing the way he/ she likes. Ask yourself why her dress-code bothers you .?