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The making of a Holy narcissist

The making of a Narcissist Pastor

Religion is like a double-edged knife. It can be used for Good and for bad, To build and to destroy. A knowledgeable person can quote a scriptural passage to justify any act he wishes. No wonder religion accommodates every individual regardless of character.

However, certain religion tends to promote individualism while other religion promotes collectivism. Empaths and kind-hearted individual are more likely to enjoy a gathering that promotes suppression of Individual needs for the sake of the majority. Such teaching are alien to narcissistic persons. Moreover, religion teaches application of rule to everyone. The golden rule and other virtues of fairness are promoted. Narcissistic belief they are center of attention and deserve special and higher favors and not to be treated equally with those he is better than. But he also wants to be liked by the society. So he pretends to agree with the religious teaching while revealing his real self to his immediate family members.

Traditional religion has little to offer the grandiose narcissistic. Churches that teaches that one is a sinner that would be punished in hell bruises the ego of the narcissistic. He deserves to be exempted from such punishment for no reason.His sins should be ignored and forgiven while he continues to commit them.Sermons that condemn the pride and praises the humble are not what he seeks to traditional churches like Catholic Church, Jehovah witness, Anglican etc. teaches members to sacrifice personal goal, ambition, dreams for the sake of the kingdom. Such churches are not vehicles for personal fulfillment.

It won’t be long before he leaves the church in search of another. Most times, they leave for a Protestant church that alters scriptural teaching for the sake of the congregation. Most Pentecostal churches are magnet for people with such traits A Smaller church in need of members. A church that tells members that faith alone without works is enough to make heaven. Even though the passenger dies in a motor accident, the narcissistic would be unhurt because he is unique. This feeds his narcissistic tendency. He would actively participate in such gathering. A smaller gathering where one may rise to become a deacon or member of the pastoral council.

A new position especially one accompanied with the title ; Bishop, Pastor, Evangelist etc comes with a feeling of superiority over others. An individual who receive a new title begins to feel like a new shift has taken place within him. That comes with a tendency to look down on those without such titles. enforces the feeling of entitlement. Even when one does not actively demand it, the church members may begin to give such person special favors and respect. Members begin to kneel down and beg him to lay his hands on them. He feels powerful.A narcissist not only demand it but enjoys it .He begins to feel he is truely special from others. His narcissistic tendency increases.It takes a matter of time before his true nature comes out. He begins to preach a message of Grace. As a believer, you do not deserve to suffer. A feeling of entitlement. God owes him riches and wealth for believing in him. He begins to grumble about blessings not received instead of being grateful for those received. His sermon is means to glorify himself. Soon, he sees himself as better than the general overseer. He falls out with the owner and takes the next step.

He forms his own church or cult where he has autonomous power. Furthermore, he looks for gullible persons to recruit. Furthermore, he exaggerates a childhood incident as a sign that he was born special. He begins to elevate himself to a position higher than human beings and closer to God. Furthermore, he equates himself to scriptural prophets He replaces Moses, Abraham, with his name during prayer and admonishes members to do the same. Furthermore, he perceives himself as equal if not better than his scriptural characters.

Is your general overseer a narcissist?

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Think For Yourself

Spoon-fed by inspired writers Commanded by perceived experts. . Taught by certified teachers         instructed by respected martyrs

We look to external mortal        To tell us what is rational              like second hand individuals    born without a functional cerebral

If we perform rites of Initiation Repeat words of supplication.     Suppress certain natural inclination         And control our reflection

We are assured of immortality.. This does not match with reality An attempt to strip us of our personality. and subject us to their authority 

They teach us dogmatic belief Adapted from ancient writing To make us act by their script And ignore our dream .

We memorize the rules like prisoners . We live the life of mediocre .         Lawyers wear the badge of Freedom fighter  . In Religious centers praising the jailers  

Ethnicity leads to group Identification. Group identification leads to division division leads to competition. Competition hinders cooperation

Holding on to dogmatic belief. We know is not working.         And hope it  turn out well            is the road to stagnation

A period of Isolation                    To examine Religious assumption. . Subject them to experimental investigation. Wake up from mental limitation

Reject all societal hypothesis That does not align with reality with immediate alacrity To free up mental capacity.

Break the chains that bind. Asking Question is no crime . Finding answers is our right . Reclaim your power to live our own life

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Our Village people are not Heartless.

Festive season is a period people from all works of life travel to states of origin. There are rumors of how relation residing in the village attempt to kill successful ones. This fear has led many to take a vow never to visit the village for years.

Our Village relation want the best out of life like every one else. The environment limits them. Research by Miles Storpler, a genetic researcher discovered that hereditary accounts for about 65 percent of a young person capacity, intellect and ability while the remaining 35 percent furnished by environment determine whether or the sixty percent gets a chance to unfold. One raised in a detrimental environment needs more work to overcome. Those raised in rural areas are disadvantaged.

Each moment we travel back home to show off our wealth, we remind them of their failure to achieve what we have achieved. The society no longer respect people based on their age. The materialistic society places richer persons on the social hierarchy. A young rich man is respected over an old man. First son’s keep quiet during family meeting. Money talks.

The village people are human being with emotion. A highly recognized elderly man would not lose his status to a younger guy he carried with his arms as a baby. He would either desire to acquire what the young lad has or he wishes the young man does not have it. The former is difficult because of environmental limitation. The latter is more likely.

Any quality, achievement or advancement that provoke admiration is likely to induce this feeling. This includes wealth, status, power, fame, success, academic achievement, etc This resentment towards someone with desirable features is called envy. At most, village persons can be best described as envious and not wicked. This attribute is not peculiar to village people. Envy is highly found among the lowest of any group. The unemployed youth who stands in front of a newspaper stand criticizing the government is only envious. Should he get a government appointment, his envy would reduce significantly.

Envy also exist in urban areas. The competitive nature of our job promote envy. Marketers who are able to make more sales are promoted and thus envied by colleague.

How we can minimize envy :

1) Conceal your success. Must you show off your affluence? You may drive your Jeep in the town and drive okada in the village. Trek with them. Fetch firewood with bragging fuels envy.

2) Treat them as equal or superior : Show them respect despite your superiority. Do not laugh at their poor attempt at English. Speak the native language you both understand. Tell them their native food is more nutritive than noodles. Exaggerate the wonders of rural life. Praise them well.

3) Sharing : Giving some part of the object of envy with others. The envious person becomes a beneficiary of the object of envy.

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Left and Right Thinkers

The Neurologist classifies the brain into left and the right part. The right part is a center for emotion while the left hemisphere is the center of thinking. Children with a highly developed left hemisphere take first position in class and represent the class in inter-school competition. Right thinkers top the class in bullying and noise making and represent the class in inter-house sport competition. What they lack in intellectual analysis, they make up in physical hardiness. They are usually in majority. Left thinkers make great class captain because they are academically ahead.

This classification expands to the larger society Right thinkers usually top in illiteracy, Polio infection and poverty. Their top values are :

Dress code for women. Blasphemy laws confiscating alcoholic drinks. Cattle Rearing. Underage marriage.

The left thinkers are concerned about making lives better. Their top values are:

Breaking up /restructuring. Improving the economy persistent ASUU strike. improving policing and security High cost of living.

A right thinker

Left thinkers are willing to push aside tradition and scriptures to advance a goal. Right thinkers would prefer to remain stagnant to deviating from scriptural and traditional belief. The right thinkers are looking at making under aged child legitimate voters. The bill may be passed into law eventually as right thinkers have more population among the legislature. The left thinkers would rather ban underage marriage. Unlike left thinkers, Religious belief play a major role in the decision-making of right thinkers . Right thinkers are unwilling to consider scientific study of the harm done on the girl child as a result of early pregnancy as long as her religion approves of such. They would rather stone the messenger and destroy his findings. Right thinkers shifts scripture when it does not align with reality.

The right thinkers contribute less to the regional revenue and are more in number. Their numerical advantage gives them an advantage during election. They tend to rule left thinkers. When right thinkers rule, left thinkers feel marginalized. When right thinkers rule, left thinkers feel marginalized. An external body might be needed to bridge the gap but the right thinkers rigidity makes it difficult. A doctor might be needed to divide the duo but the leftist would not want that either. We have a serious matter in our hands. We have to be careful, so It does not lead to uprising in the future.

Are you a leftist or a rightist