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The crime of being Natural

We came out of our mother’s womb naked. At three, it is accepted to walk around the same way but by the time we reach seven, we are shamed for attempting to walk in the Same way we arrived at the earth . Gradually, we teach the girls to become so focused on societal perception on her body that she she becomes uncomfortable in her own skin. She rejects her true self for a covering- a cloth , to fit into the society. This does not stop there, she learns to hide her real thoughts, beliefs,values and emotions and learn to be a hypocrite.

Since she is unable to be her true self, she learns to shame those who attempt to be authentic. Deep within, she envies them for having the courage to live their own lives. If we are shaming those who choose to walk naked, we are indirectly telling the creator he did a terrible job. We are on obnoxiously questioning his rationale for bringing us in this world naked in the first place. Which right thinking person would light light up a candle and hide it under the bed ? Which right thinking artist would mould a sculpture and cover it? Did our books not tell us that early man roamed about naked? At what point did nudity become a taboo?

Clothes were worn in those days sparingly for protection against adverse weather condition. Today it has become a law . Psychologist have pondered why the older we get, the more uncomfortable we feel in our own skin . Abraham Mascow, attributed the taboo on nudity more on societal norm than on ethical grounds . We have been conditioned into feeling uncomfortable in the presence of any nudity. The term ” gymnophobia” has been coined to describe the psychological aversion to nudity

Some religion tell us that the human body is shameful and to expose any portion of it except the face or the hands is an offence. Many religion cannot draw the demarcation between nudity and sexual. It is believed that mere exposure of a body incites sexual thought and behavior in the opposite gender. Is nudity the problem or the mind? This mindset has led to rape victims being blamed as partner in crime.

As a result, people who chose to embrace nudity were viewed by mental health professional as psychological dysfunctional. It was until 1930 that the former president of American psychology Association , Howard Warren (1933) observed a group of persons camping naked for weeks. At the end of the camping, he noticed that participants became more open and trusting of each other. This led to a proposed theory that when strangers that nude at an early stage are more likely to enjoy be open and trust each other . This led to the birth of a new therapeutic movement which uses non- sexual social nudity as a means to improve individual mental health. A more recent publication by Renowned professor of psychology , West K (2018) shows that people who practice nudity tends to have higher body image, high self esteem and better life satisfaction.

Recent studies are beginning to link constant putting on bras with ill health including breast cancer. Guys who put on tight boxers are likely encounter problems in their reproductive system. The very clothes we crave may be causing problem yet social pressure compels us to put on clothes.

Before you put on that piece of cloth, question your rationale behind it. Are you putting it on for you or for others. Before you condemn that person for dressing the way he/ she likes. Ask yourself why her dress-code bothers you .?


Kill your club loyalty before It kills you

Study shows that soccer fans experience greater level of positive emotion when the team is on a winning streak. Similarly, sport fans suffer physical and psychological consequences when their team looses. For example, research shows an increase in reckless driving which could lead to road accident, poor eating choice and frequent drinking too heart attack, and domestic violence. One particular research shows that domestic violence increases in an area where the local team loses a game.

Sport fans face this dilemma of staying loyal to a club. No one wants to be associated with a friend who stands by you when things are Rosy and leaves a sinking ship. Such friends are termed disloyal, snitch etc.. Some rules make sense on a general level, but not on a specific level. What applies to friendship does not apply here.

Loyalty to one club does not automatically mean a negative attitude towards other team and their fans. It does not mean we should not acknowledge our club shortcomings, either. There are fans who are ready to tell lies to defend their team. They will go to any length to deny allegation even on non-soccer related issue such as assault, tax evasion and rape allegation as if they eye witness to the incident. They can lose their identity and life over a club in the name of club loyalty.

Some of us have spent a considerable number of years supporting a club. The club has formed part of our identity. To leave the club means killing ourselves. It means admitting that we failed in our choice of club afteeall. No one likes to be associated with failure. It has little to do with loyalty

Guess what! Your club is not your friend. It is not a human being to begin with. It is like every other organization whose focus is to maximize profit. Today, loyalty is no longer taken into consideration when hiring or firing players. Once a club legend’s performance has dropped below par, the management decides not to renew his contract. Club managers have learned to prioritize individual players present performance over years of service. If clubs could treat their players this way, how much more would they treat their fans. Players switch clubs when a bigger club comes calling. The same is applicable to coaches. Clubs fire players and coaches at will. We do not show loyalty to a Friend who does not show us loyalty.

We saw the last attempt by club owners to participate in the European super league. The decision was taken via a close door meeting among club owners. Neither the fans nor the players representative were put into consideration. This gives us a clue of how selfish the game has been lately. Fans do not have a say which player leaves or who stays. Your friends seek your advice before taking a critical decision. The club did not seek your consent before agreeing to such proposal. The club owners are not your friend. They don’t know of your existence. The exit of one individual fan will not be noticed.

Just as club managers take decision based on what it considered its best interest. You got to take decision based on what you consider your own best interest. Asking me to support a club that is on a losing streak is like telling an investor to keep investing on a dwindling venture that is showing no plans of recovery.

Arsenal fans ought to understand that the values which the team is built upon is eroding. Commercialization of the Game is killing the game. Dirty trick are being employed to manipulate match outcome. Betting firms are highly involved in underground match fixing in European games. Even FIFA admitted that international friendly matches before the 2010 world cup were fixed. Why would I extend morals to a system that does not value morals.

Health is wealth. Could leave a loosing club and gamble on a team with more chances of winning, We can apply the same tactics in guarding against our mental health. Would we Rather lose our money or our psychological wellbeing? Your health should matter to you and if your friends, your club, your job worse your health, you have a duty to ditch them and protect your health. Kill your team before your team kills you.

When a club looses, fans suffer .some pour out their anger on the innocent wife. Guess what! The players get their weekly pay irrespective of result. The club generate more income in gate fee. Broadcasting station get more views and subscribers and ultimately more money. Every one goes home with something. Only the FANS go home worse. Only fans suffer unnecessarily in the name of loyalty.

The group I respect the most are those who watch the game just got entertainment purposes. Whenever any team scores, they jubiliate. Loyalty does not mean so will not acknowledge a great goal scored against my team. I remember celebrating Rashford long range free kick against Chelsea. My fellow Chelsea players immediately called me a betrayal. It makes me wonder if a goal is more spectacular when scored by a player we admire.

The first question to ask ourselves is Why do we support this team in the first place? Go back to the first time we began supporting the team or further down to what makes us enjoy the game of soccer, Most of us grow up supporting the club because our immediate family and friends supported that club, so we were accustomed to watching the club match more regularly. In that cases, Familiarity led us to the club. Others grew up to support a team that contains a player they admire or one that plays for the national team. . A little group supported a club because of the game play like Tiki-taka or counter attacking. There are other reasons for watching the game.

We grew up because we derived joy from doing so. If our current club does not give us the same hit, we sign for a club that does. If you grew up supporting Arsenal FC because it once had lots of African players like Eboue who were winning games like, Kanu Nwankwo and Kolo Toure, you may look for another club that contains African like liver pool. One who grew up supporting Barcelona because of their beautiful style of play is free to support Manchester City for a similar style of play. The point is to be loyal to that which you value in the game, and find it in other teams. Stick to team(s) which exemplify the values you hold darely in the game.

I went home happier when Chelsea lost the F. A cup. The Joy in the faces of my Nigerian Stars — Kelechi Iheanacho and Wilfred Ndidi overrode the disappointment of losing the trophy. A friend of mine supports Manchester United in England, Real Madrid in Spain and Juventus FC in Italy. Christiano Ronaldo inspired his decision. When Juventus started playing poorly this season, he simply reduced the number of times he watched the old ladies and spent more time watching Manchester United matches. He did not give one club the power to determine his overall happiness. It is not a sin to support another team in matches that your team is not playing. One of the best ways to cope is to have multiple favorite club in each league