Almost every man watches porn. But in recent years, the proportion of women in the porn audience has been growing. What does this shift mean? DW asked a sociologist and an evolutionary biologist. Women do not usually watch porn. Or do they? According to recent surveys by popular porn websites such as PornHub and xHamster, […]Women watch porn, too — but why?
My name is fe-armale . I am created to fear the male and obey his command. I am constantly reminded that I was made from his rib. If I do not worship him, he may take his rib back . That would be the end of my life. I am indebted to him for giving me life . God created him. He made me. He is my minigod.
My body is not mine but an extension of his. I do not own myself. My dad own me. He could use me to settle debt or offer me to his male visitors for pleasure. . He could give me out to any man in marriage without my consent . I must open my leg at his command and must remain in the union no matter how toxic. I must please my husband, brother and son for they are my moral obligation.
I try to dress in a way I feel. I am instructed to cover every part of my body. For my body is a temptation to the men. The same body I got from their ribs. I must surrender to his request no matter how illogical it seems. Every time I attempt to by myself, I am shamed for being such an ingrate.
Unti I got pregnant and gave birth to my son, I realized that men came through the legs of women.My eyes are open to reality. I was deceived . I have repressed myself yet you males do not appreciate me. You guys are insatiable. I weep because I see many girls who are still victims of the tale. I have had enough. I will violate the good girl code. I will deviate from the norms of the society. I will be Authentic.
When Nollywood actor Pet Edochie fumed at the young men kneeling before a woman, he was backlashed. Pet was comparing happenings in his youthful age against the youth in this generation. The traditional Igbo man is highly placed in the society. During traditional wedding,the woman kneels down to propose to the man.The one who kneels begs the other for a favor.A typical Igbo man hardly kneels for his fellow man talkless of a woman . He only kneels for the gods who he recognizes as more powerful than he is.
Pet is not alone. Many men have noticed a decline in the masculinity of men. The Alpha male movement and redpill movement are attempt to correct this imbalance.When did thngs change? When did man begin to loose his ego to stoop so low to kneel before a less powerful being. Was the change sudden or gradual?
Women were seen as irrational and emotional.Men were the rational and strong willed. Men were taught to act like men They had to suppress their emotion close to their heart. Men should never cry in public. Expression of vulnerability is a sign of a weak man. Men are closed minded, rigid and structured. He should not seek fun .Men. Should always be in power, strive for control, compete.They lack empathy necessary for effective communication and connection.
In early days, male children joined their fathers in the river fishing or the forest haunting. Female spent their time with the mothers cooking. Each gender know his role. You hardly see a man in the kitchen or a girl hunting. Men learnt to act like men and women learnt to act like women.Then came the industrial era. Lands meant for farming and hunting was taking over by the government to build factory. The owners of the land were jobless.To offer compensation, the men were integrated as workers in this factory. Their male children were not allowed to follow dad to work.son stays at home with the mum while Dad went to work. Father leaves home as early as eight and comes home by six. He is exhausted, he sleeps to get strength for the next day. Fathers became absent in their son’s life. The role of dad in son life began to reduce while the role of mum in son life began to rise. Mummy passes over her feminine qualities to growing son.
Then came education. Female involvement in education at an early age especially science and law improve her reasoning abilities (masculinity) . Female take part in competitive games like the male counterpart. This improves their aggression.These women ended up as heads of organization.They took decision and gave instructions . These women began to have a thirst of power . Their masculine qualities were awoken.
Girls who enjoy highly competitive games with a desire to win also increases their aggression (masculinity). We tag such women names like Tomboy. They are ladies with highly developed masculine side and poorly developed feminine side.. Such masculine girls are attracted to the beta guys. If a man is more masculine in nature,he will be attracted to a very feminine woman who will compliment his energy. Balance men prefer neutral women.. Masculine girls at attracted to a feminine guy or sisi or beta guy . Such guys are few as society teaches guys to wear the Alpha mask. She can only find solace among her fellow feminine women. This is the origin of homosexuality- . Heterosexual are no different from homosexual as both seek balance .
Society has widened this energy balance over the years. Civilisation is bring closing the gap. Homosexual are closer to achieving balance compared to heterosexual. Yet, Homosexuals feel guilty for not complying with society expectation. . There is nothing wrong with homosexuality, for it IS what is. However, we need to bear in mind that society at this time is traumatized due to so many centurie conditioned to comply with that. DO we want to fit in? Until WHEN? We need to learn to Love who we are, while allowing others to be what they want to be. Acceptance is the way of Life.
We should understand that each individual hold masculine and feminine qualities within us. When both qualities are not well alligned, the person is out of balance. The traditional gender roles over the years has created highly masculine males on one hand and highly feminine female on the other side. we are drawn to certain individual that help us correct these imbalance. These highly masculine males become attracted to highly feminine female.
Son: what does the Bible teach about homosexuality and masturbation.
Dad: I do not know and I do not care to know
Son: But you are a Christian
Dad: yes, A Christian who follows the teaching of Jesus. Christ alone and not the Bible.
Son; But Bible contains Jesus teaching
Dad: true. It also contains the teaching of Paul,the teaching of Moses , the teaching of Elijah and many other teaching. As a Christian, I accept the teaching of Jesus Christ.
Son: Ok, Now what did Jesus teach about masturbation and homosexuality.
Dad: Jesus never mentioned any of them literally but he showed us with illaustration how to treat those whose views are different from ours.
Dad: He never condemned the adultrous woman, he visited tax collectors, he dined with sinners. He showered them with love.
Son : does that mean they won’t go to hell?
Dad: would you derive Joy in Watching your loved one in hell?
Son: No I won’t
Dad: sex is a way of expressing Love. There are different stages of love. The first is love directed to oneself. A child grows up loving himself.Using sexual analogy, the child derives Joy playing with his body, his genital. Jesus said Love thyself.
Son : hmm
Dad: The second is Love of similar specie.The child begins to extend the love to those of closest to him+ family, friend,tribe etc. A boy plays with a boy.A girl plays with a girl. Using sexual analogy, this is homosexual. Christ preached Love your neighbor.
Son : I see
Dad: The third stage of love is where one loves those different from oneself .Jesus said Love your enemy.your enemy is your opponent, opposite,one with a different view. Sexually, one is attracted to the gender different from him.A boy is attracted to a girl and vice-versa.
Dad: One who hates masturbators and homosexuals and love heterosexual is no different from one who loves others over himself and his peers.Such person is in a third stage of love.
Son : which is the best.
Dad: All of the above.The fourth type. The pansexual. The attraction to all . Self, male, and female. It is universal love. Agape love. Love without condition.
I want yo render an apology for my inability to post for a very long time. This was due to measures beyond my control.
Thank God I am back for good
I recalled an incident which occurred few months back.I went to the supermarket to purchase a few items when I encountered a lady there. What distinguished her from others was her skimpy clothes.The skirt she wore was as small as a handkerchief covering virtually nothing. Her
For a moment ,I thought she was marketing for the supermarkets. I gazed my eyeballs at her standing right opposite her.
“pervert,would you look away? ”
Huh? You wear a sexy outfit that got me thinking of sex and you call me a perver.what do I call you ? I said still gazing at her
” I am not doing anything for you. It is your problem if you don’t keep your eyes to your self. ” she fired back rolling her eyes up and down repeatedly.
“If I were to play your favorite zee world program publicly with a large hundred inch screen and loud sound system, wouldn’t you watch? Would I say ” please don’t watch,I wasn’t playing it for you? I replied
She was dumbfounded. I continued
‘When a fisherman uses a worm,it is to attract the fish.why would a girl dress in such a way as to attract attention only to deny the attention?
She knew I was not keen on giving up.she walked away in embarrassment
A man is a rape-supporter if…
*.He has ever sexually engaged with any woman while she was underage, drunk, high, physically restrained, unconscious, or subjected to psychological, physical, economic, or emotional coercion.
*.He has blamed a woman for “putting herself in a situation” where she “could be” attacked.
*.He threatens to patronise prostitutes when patner says no to his sex appeal defends .
Defends men accused for rape in court even with glaring evidence
*.He watches pornography in which women are depicted.
*.He watches any pornography in which sexual acts are depicted as a struggle for power or domination, regardless of whether women are present.
*.He characterizes the self-sexualizing behavior of some women, such as wearing make-up or high heels, as evidence of women’s desire to “get” a man.
*.He tells or laughs at jokes involving women being attacked, sexually “hoodwinked,” or sexually harassed.
*.He expresses enjoyment of movies/musicals/TV shows/plays in which women are sexually demeaned or presented as sexual objects
*.He mocks women who complain about sexual attacks, sexual harassment, street cat-calls, media depictions of women, or other forms of sexual objectification.
For every penny he gives you, he indirectly expects girl to pay back in kind
*.He states or implies that women who do not want to have sex with men are “inhibited,” “prudes,” “stuck-up,” “man-haters,” or psychologically ill.
*.He argues that certain male behaviors towards women are “cultural” and therefore not legitimate subjects of feminist attention.
*.He ever subordinates the interests of women in a given population to the interests of the men in that population, or proceeds in discussions as if the interests of the women are the same as the interests of the men.
*.He promotes religious or philosophical views in which a woman’s physical/psychological/emotional/sexual well-being is subordinated to a man’s.
*.He describes female anatomy in terms of penetration, or uses terms referencing the supposed “emptiness” of female anatomy when describing women.e.g calling girls holes.
*.He defends the sexualization or sexual abuse of minor females on the grounds of “consent” or “willingness.”
*.He promotes the idea that women as a class are happier or more fulfilled if they have man, or that they “should” have man.
*.He argues that people (or just “men”) have sexual “needs.”
*.He discusses the “types” of women he finds sexually appealing and/or attempts to demean women by telling them he does not find them sexually appealing.
*.He defends these actions by saying that some women also engage in rape.
Are you guilty of any of these?
the pride of a woman lies on her beauty while that of a man lies on his wealth. However,men are happy when their fellow men achieve. They tend to hang out with wealthy men in order to benefit from their wealth. The same cant be said of ladies.cute women tend to hate more beautiful ladies.
Women tend to focus on other persons and not themselves.this is why they tend to gossip more.they easily notice a girl who excells in an area they lack.when they see a girl having the looks they crave for, they tend to be jelous.
Girls lov to take center of action.if a woman walks in a room of men.she likes all eyes to admire her. All those flattering,extra cash etc from male colleagues .when a more beautiful lady enters the scene, it becomes obvious she has a challenger. She cant compete with someone more endowned so she begins to hate.
If the beautiful lady is closer to her by family. There is a rule. The beautiful girl must never meet your guy else he starts chasing her and leaves you.girls take relationship too seriously.
Such jelousy leads to insecurity. They know the girl is more endowned than they are and is capable of winning them in beauty contest.
Ladies know the feminine power and they know beautiful ladies naturally use it on men to get favours. Smart cute ladies who use their brains hate seeing beautiful ladies esp with sleeveless and short skirts. They hate it when some beautiful lady use their beauty to degrade womanhood.