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The major reason not to get married.

If marriage were compulsory, Jesus would have done so.I am not against the idea of getting married. I am only saying marriage is not for everyone. The assumption that one can only be fulfilled while married is false . Many propeller of this fallacy quote the Bible to back up their claim.

It is not good for man to be alone

It is not good for anyone to be alone . Eve was to be a companion and not a marriage partner . One can feel alone while being married . The verse only validates the fact that no one is an Ireland. We need someone to lean on . Marriage is a concept created by man to bring order in the society. No one has been arrested for choosing to remain single.

Many of us get married because we need kids. There are many orphans down there craving to get married. Go adopt them . Except off course you are searching for your own child to shower selfish love .

Everyone is meant to have children. Eli the priest was not meant to have children as that would disturb his mission on Earth so his wife womb was shut for years. Having a wife would not affect his goal. After persistent prayer, he finally had a child. He had to choose between disciplining his children or spending time in the church. He chose the later. His children became wayward.

Zaccharia was another priest who had difficulty in having a son.It was not until he was very old that he was permitted too. This tells us that those who are called to work in God institution are not meant to have children as that could affect their work .They are permitted to have a helper, a partner, a wife ,a maid etc.

This brings me to the only reason to get married .We should get married when getting married enables us to achieve our life purpose.

Jesus knew his mission on Earth .He knew it involves wandering from one place to another spreading the message. The stress of travelling with his family all the Tim would slow down his movement. He could not afford to take them to the mountain and through the sea. He knew his message would invoke the wrath of the pharasees who would happily transfer their aggression to his wife and children . Peter who was already married had to leave his wife behind to follow Jesus. His wife must have felt sad as a result. His children must have been angry with their father for being unavailable. It is better not to get married than to abandon your partner midway. one had to pace way for another.

Marriage is settling down . Those whose purpose involve moving around have no business settling down.A Catholic priest could be posted to three different countries in a year as part of missionary work. Relocating their family all the time would prove cumbersome. This is why Catholic priest do not get married. I am not condemning clergy who get married. I only ask that each should examine the nature of his calling. One who is fixed at a particular place to grow an already planted church can marry. Missionaries who go about converting people and planting churches can abstain.

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How I discovered my gift

I have been fascinated about the prospect of working and earning money. My first experience came as an industrial attachment at a construction company . The thought of doing something new excited me. As time past, I began to dread the Job.I felt depressed toward the end of each day as I contemplate going to work the next day .I only enjoyed the weekly allowance and the monthly wage. I felt bad knowing fully well that I would spend the next five days trading my time for an activity I dreaded. I wished everyday were a holiday. I was glad It finally ended. I vowed never to work in an engineering company. I have high regards for those who work there but I know It did not reflect my abilities and interests.

I laid my hands on marketing. I was thought various ways to open and close sales and other ways to get others to purchase goods. As time passes I began to feel guilty for manipulating people to generate sales. Integrity has always been my top value and marketing does not allign with It. Before now,I used to think the feeling of sadness on Sundays experienced by low income earners engaging in menial jobs at uncomfortable environment. How wrong was I?

Then came the compulsory National Youth Service Corps.(NYSC) I was posted to a rural area in the North Eastern part of the country to teach mathematics. My love for mathematics was second to none. I taught Jss1-3. I had not less than 10 periods per week twice more than the second highest corper posted in the school. The students were slow learner. I had to teach them according to their pace. At times, I would organise free evening classes for those that are interested. Despite my heavy workload, I squeezed out time for private lesson. Whenever I see any empty class, I would begin teaching them.

If anyone had told me that I would enjoy teaching, I would have disagreed instantly. Here I am rejecting other job for teaching. Teaching does not put me in a position to deceive or manipulate people like sales. Rather, teaching reflect my personality.I am someone who enjoys been surrounded by children whom I care deeply for , patiently guide them to make better decisions for themselves and the world. I prefer been surrounded by children who are aware of their ignorance and are open to learning unlike mode adults . NYSC made me realize my calling as a teacher. I look forward to going to work. The Covid 19 break did not prevent me from teaching as I organised students within my street and taught them for little . I feel energised each time I teach .I feel my contribution is respected and appreciated . Despite the fact that teachers are undervalued in the society, I feel proud describing my work to others.

IF not for NYSC ,I would still be wandering from one Job to another in search for the one that suit me. Today I am no longer in support of the scrapping of NYSC.