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Before you cast a stone

For the first time in a while, Nigerians from all works of life lent their voice to the ill-treatment carried out by the Special Anti Robbery squad department (SARS) of the National Police Force(NPF). This shows that the people can put aside her differences and unite against a common foe. A true test of democracy is evident when those in power fear the anger of the people and not when the people are scared of those in power.

While it is easy to point accusing fingers, we should be free of committing the same crime we accuse them of. The members of the special anti robbery squad were not imported from a foreign country . They are one of us. They represent a subset of the total population . The action they commit is a reflection of what the average Nigerian is capable of doing in position of power . What differentiate the average Nigerian from SARS is that the later is permitted by law to use force and arms to enforce laws . Many a times, The wealthy ones use her financial strength to influence SARS to bully his adversity. Why are we quick to castigate them when they are tools in our hands .

In our homes,We are worse than SARS when we devalue women as male property and excercise control over their lives. We want to dress how we want while we tell the ladies what to wear. We are worse than SARS when we use her as punching bag. We are worse than SARS when we act like dictators in our home to be feared by the entire household. We are worse than SARS when we maltreat our househelp and prevent her from attending same school with our children . We are worse than SARS when we sexually harras her and threaten her into silence.

We are worse than SARS when we team up to born down the shrine of the elderly man worshipping the gods of his ancestors. We are Worse than SARS when we confine one to psychiatric ward or jail for choosing not to belong to any Religion. We criticize SARS for their brutality against those who wear tatoo while our religious police punnish us for the same act .

We are worse than SARS when we take advantage of our students poor academic performance to lure her to bed.We are worse than SARS when we destroy farmlands and farmers except states donate their land to us to practice our trade . We are worse than SARS when we use our political and financial strength to remove effective but non- submissive governors from seeking reelection . We are worse than SARS when we take official decision favoring one tribe or group at the expense of others.

The security agencies are not the only one guilty of intimidation. Any act of public humiliation, physical attack, disrespectful language,discriminatory comment, or name calling against our subordinate or minority promotes abuse of power. Subtle acts of manipulating the naive for personal gain also fuels oppression. The victim fear reporting the act could be worse than the original form of abuse. This enable perpetrator get away with the crime thereby empowering then to continue the maltreatment. Cowardice on the part of the victim feed tyranny.

Any society that prevents one from critical thinking and promotes submission to a higher power creates an avenue for abuse. This is why many cases of abuse go unreported among security agencies and religion institution .Obey what the boss says whether you agree with him or not and get a chance of getting promoted.security agents are also victims of abuse by their superior.The anger is suppressed until they find a subordinate they can vent the anger on without any side effect . The junior staff are cruel to their own subordinate until the most junior ranked officer who have no one to be cruel to pass their aggression to civilian . This is why top ranked security agents are less harsh than low ranking ones .

The #endsars protest is a call to all victim of all kinds of abuse to unite together and take a stand. When the abusers realises that the victims would rather die than persist in such ill-treatment, they would be forced to reconsider their ways. No condition is permanent Centuries of abuse of patriarchy has led to the number of self identified feminist and single motherhood-. Parents who bring up their children in love would be cared for when they get old and weak. Garbage in Garbage out. What we sow is what we reap.

We need to focus towards an egilateral society.- a society that is based on equality. Moral reasoning should be introduced as a subject in secondary schools. Children ought to be taught character development with emphasis on equal respect for all devoid of gender, religion, power, wealth or Fame.

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World Mental Health Day: Are we mentally free?

This year, the Federal Government joined other nations to impose a curfew as one of the steps to reduce the spread of covid 19. The people lamented on the effect such law had on individual freedom. Earlier this month,the nation marked her sixty years freedom from Western colony. Few days ago, the people protested against the Special Anti-robbery squad for (SARS) for invading on human rights.

While we focus on external freedom like geographic freedom, financial freedom,and political freedom we neglect a fundamental freedin- mental freedom. …. Mental freedom is freedom from society conditioning, society expectation and need for approval. It is the detachment of oneself from society labels. It is the recognition that one is not ones gender. One is not ones tribe.One are not ones religion  .These are roles assigned to us while we are young. They were neccesary at that time when we lacked the ability to think. Now we have a choice to examine them and not carry them through adulthood.

Mental freedom begins by excersicing control over ones emotion. Ones emotion does not dictate what one does. Frequent outburst over little triggers signals one who is a slave to his anger. Theft and corrupt practices are signs of a slave to emotion of desire and greed. Whatever controls your emotion controls you.

Men who are unable to cry in public for fear of being labelled a weakling are in gender bondage.He cages those tears,act tough ,engage in drinking and smoking and other maladaptive act to suppress those emotion. A free person would choose to let the tears flow. Women who abandon their career to cater for kids out of duty as a woman and not out of love and personal choice is a slave to traditional gender roles.

One who is naturally kind and compassionate but will not hesitate to watch a thirteen years old boy die over opposing view is not free to his conscience. As long as we need an ancient book to tell us what is right and what is not,We cannot be mentally free. The book is thinking for us.

One who prefers candidate A but goes ahead to vote candidate B because his politicalGodfather, parent or religious leaders asked him to will continue to be a pawn in their hands. A governor who takes decision to please the Godfather but not in the state best interest is a slave to The godfather.

To be liberated from societal conditioning, we need need to examine the effect certain words have on us . He notices thoughts that brightens his mood and those that does not Why do I feel angry each time someone insults my Tribe, My prophet, my political party? These tribes, prophet, party existed long before I was born. I am not them. My happiness should not be tied to someone perception of them.

Next is to challenge our thoughts. Why do I belong to this group in the first place.? Could it be because my immediate family belonged here? If they belonged to the opposition, would I be a member of the opposition? Am I biased? Then he plays the devil advocate. He tries to see things from the opposition point of view. What if they are right?

We exlores our tendency to hand over decision making to Those perceived as superior to him Do I easily hand over decision to authority? Are authority always right? The present covid 19 pandemic showed a case of different medical doctors with conflicting view on the efficacy of Chloroquine in the treatment of the virus. Since experts could disagree over an issue, why can’t an individual disagree with the expert?

A mental free person explores various opinion ,engages in self- thinking and detach oneself from society labels. You are not your gender. You are not your tribe.you are not your religion  .These are roles assigned to us while we are young. They were neccesary at that time when we lacked the ability to think. Now we have a choice to examine them . arriving at his own decision. His decision may not allign with that of the majority.He does then anyway.

Examining ones name, do I really love my name? You can begin by choosing a different name. One that reflects whom you really are or aspires to be. We can choose the values dear to us and live by them.

The journey towards mental freedom is not achieved over night. It takes periods of continuous effort . The society would never be in support of your quest.No jailer wants her captive to be free.

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Challenges of getting married to a strict born again Christian

They can be boring. No room for fun Always serious face. Hardly play with family

They do not know how to handle women . Most strict pastors spent their youthful days avoiding dating and friendships with ladies in general so as not to commit adultery.

They are fault finders . They go about looking for offence. Every thing is a sin.

They are not romantic They grew up avoiding ladies. They are not used to giving hugs and kisses. They only know one position. Anal sex is a sin. Only accepts style is missionary. The mouth is for praising God name and not oral.

They can be routinal .. They have a structured life style. Easily predictable. Wife feel bored.

Lack of emotional intimacy. Wife is emotionally starved. His priorities are in the things of the lord. Time for heart to heart discussion and he is quoting Bible.

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an accused pastor

WHEN A CHURCH PASTOR IS ACCUSED OF SCANDAL,WHAT SHOULD CHURCH MEMBERS DO?

Should they do noting about it even if the evidence is clear since bible say touch not my annoited…

should they do nothing and leave the case to God to act. IF A PASTOR/PRIEST errs, pray for him, let God judge,never hurt a priest???

Should they be indifrent? It doesnt concern them.pastor personal life is no body buisnes

should they remain loyal . See it as devil plan to disrupt church aim of wining soul to christ.

Report the case??? If u can report a thief, a rapist, ? Why dont u report a pastor who should know better

Confront him?? Tel him his crime personaly, if posible present the evid ence to him. Hear his defence .

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a letter to lawyers

In my early days, I was asked my dream caeeer, i had immediately replied ” lawyer”. My dad immediately told me that “all lawyers are liars”.that statement immedtately demorolised me.

Few years later, my elder cousin came home informing us of his intention to marry a lawyer. He was immediately told to think twice about it. Everyone present began narrating their ordeals with lawyers.

i was very young then.i was really brainwashed against doing anything with lawyers. I viewed them as a proffesional liars paid to lie.

as i grow older, my belief faded gradually.i now belive that that some honest lawyers truely exist. However, they are few. The multitude liars tend to overshadow them. The legal system is itself corrupt.

What then diffrentiaates an honest lawyer from the lying lawyers?

The legal system has made it such that the more difficult a case tends to be, the more money u tend to make as a lawyer. The initial belief that lawyers defend the innocent is really fading. Do lawyers still do that?
Modern lawyers defend who approaches them, who is ready to foot the bill irrespective of the truth

The dishonet lawyers lack conscience. He uses his lying tongue to bend the truth and strech the lies in convincing the court
the dishonest lawyer defends the case of a known persistent murderer and sleeps peacefully afterward
the dishonest lawyer is ready to call a white spade “black” .
he is willing to defend a criminal today and to accuse the innocent the next day.
he does little or nothing while charging the client exhorbidant fees.raping the client of thousand and knocking of 2%
he hardly advices his client to settle out of court knowing it is of no benefit to him.even if the client has 5% chance of winning the case. He would rather continue delaying the case since he stands to gain from “sitting fee”.

The irony of it all is that such persons who consider their pocket first before their conscience or the client scale through the legal profession.hardened criminals, curropt goverment officials and rich politician patronise them and pay them . .They win the case even though the entire court know they ought to loose. In most cases, the judge is helpless as he is trained to judge by reason and not by emotions.

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crying football fans

When i was a little boy i used to cry whenever super eagles lost a game …..i still remember victor ikbeba penalty against cameroon……

but as Ive grown up ive stopped crying…mainly because at one point, u got used to super eagles playing badly and loosing and didnt want to suffer unnessasary hypertention

the last time i cried was when iniesta scored that late goal against chelsea that kept the blues out of champions league goal.

Ghana’s gyan penalty miss almost made me cry.

I doubt if any worldcup match would make me feel bad

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God without Joke

I am just wandering. Does God have a sence of humour at all or is he always serious minded.

Have searched through the bible but yet to see him tell a Joke.he only laaughed at man stupidity at times.

Belive it or not,a sligght humour is important in communication. The bible which cutacross all part of life seems to neglect this important attribute -humour.

Imagine having a dad who kept shouting at you and commanding you without making you laugh for once.how do you feel?like a slave or a friend or a son.

Or did God actually told humour but we were to serious minded to laugh .Can someone please point out a joke in the bible,

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kids and news

yesterday, i spentthe night in an aunt place. After supper,the kids of probably 7- 9years sat down in the parlour eager to watch NTA NETWORK NEWS.After series of  interogation, i gathered the mum ensured they watch news and write a summary of what the news says.

That got me thinking. Should kids of less than ten years be mandated to watch news? Should they be exposed to crimes shown?yester night, 30 minutes was spent showing survivors of nyanya bomb blast, dead bodies, divided human parts,devasted cars etc. These scenes were enough to cause a nightmare, i wonder what must be going on in their mind.they may be thinking ” this could happen to me or mummy” . It could cause them sleepless night.

I think exposing kids to daily news has devastating long term emotional effect . Kids should not be introduced to news until they become tenegers.

What bout you?how old  should       kids be exposed to news

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my brothers day

Today is big brothers birthday.
This is specially dedicated to him

Blessed be the womb that brought you to this world
blessed be the hand that carried when you were young
blessed be chelsea your favorite football club
blessed be your soccer hero- ronaldinho and drogba

a big brother u are right from craddle
you showed us the route-u were a perfect example
you helped us up when we fell and fumbled
and when the going gets tough,you held strong like a soldier

a maths genuis with the brain of isaac newton
you are the best of your peers, second to no one
Fr Ede was wrong to let you leave with two-one
we are proud of you chimex.we are proud to be your brother.

Happy birthday Engineer Roland
100 days running serving your fathers land
I, elvis and kizzy composed this before hand
to say happy birthday to our own big brother

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Is nigeria disintegration near?

For Nigeria, breaking up has always been a probability. From day one in 1914, the composition of Nigeria was starkly unreasonable. The British ought to have taken cognizance of the fact that their own country, Great Britain, was not much larger than each of the Hausa-Fulani, Igbo and Yoruba nations in population – and in land area was only about the size of the Yoruba homeland in Nigeria, and less than half of the Hausa-Fulani homeland. How could they have decided that it made sense to strap together into one country these three largest nations of Black Africa? Separation hovered over the destiny of Nigeria from the very beginning.
And virtually everything that has happened in Nigeria and to Nigeria since the beginning has carried the banner of ultimate separation. For over 40 years (until 1949), the British simply didn’t know how to make Nigeria a country. The Southern and Northern Protectorates went their separate ways in almost all things.
But the separation was even deeper than the north-south dichotomy. Each of the three major peoples went their separate ways. The Yoruba, who had been living increasingly in towns and cities since about the 10th century, and who were therefore the owners of the only urban civilization in Black Africa, enjoyed, because of their towns and cities, a big head-start in attracting and absorbing the formative foreign influences that were dramatically changing the face of Africa from the mid-19th century on. Mission churches and schools were sprouting in the Yoruba towns by the 1850s. By the late 1860s, ambitious Yoruba families were sending their children for higher education abroad, and by the 1870s a Yoruba literate professional elite (of lawyers, doctors, engineers, architects, writers, journalists, teachers, pastors, merchants, etc) were emerging. The first newspaper (ambitiously written in the Yoruba language) started publishing in a Yoruba city in 1859, and others soon followed in various Yoruba towns and cities. By the time the British created their Nigeria in 1914, the Yoruba southwest was already far ahead of the rest of the new country in all facets of modernization.

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go super eagles

YES OOOOOO, THE WORLD CUP IS NEAR.THE LIST I COULD DO IS TO ENCOURAGE OUR OWN SUPER EAGLES.

AM NOT A SONG WRITER.JUST DECIDED TO COMPOSE A POEM FOR THE BOYS.

2014, YET ANOTHER WORLD-CUP YEAR
THE SUPER EAGLES MOMENT TO SHINE IS NEAR
GUYS,GO GRAB A SIT AND ORDER A BOTTLE OF BEAR
THE EAGLES NEED OUR SUPPORT. LETS WATCH THEM AND CHEER

PUT ON A GREEN JERSEY,GREEN SHORTS AND GREEN CAP
WEAR A GREEN SUIT TO WORK -TELL THE BOSS IS WORLD-CUP SWAG
ON YOUR OFFICE DESK,PLACE A GREEN-WHITE-GREEN FLAG
AS OUR DARLING EAGLES WILL GIVE US A REASON TO BRAG…

CANT WAIT TO SEE MUSA TAKE OFF FASTER THAN THE STORM
OR NWOFOR HONOURED AS THE GREATEST SUPER SUB
CANT WAIT AS MOSES MAKE THOSE DAZZLING DRIBBLES AND RUN
OR ONAZI RELEASE BULLETS FROM HIS SUB MARINE GUNS

I TRUST ENYEAMA TO STOP MESSI AND DZEKO
HE IS THE WORLD BEST KEEPER-SECOND TO NO ONE
AGUERO WOULD BE SILENCED BY OBOABUNA AND OMERUO
GO KESHI GO EAGLES,GO CONQUER THE WORLD

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Nigeria Station fires One Of its Best Broadcasters, On The Request Of a State Governor

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Noted Nigerian broadcaster, Edmund Obilo, had just aired an interview that exposed how the Alafin of Oyo, and the Oyo State governor in Nigeria, had allegedly been sharing the money belonging to the state, under the guise of fake contracts. A Nigerian House of representatives member, Kamil Akinlabi reveals this secret on “bull’s eye,” a popular radio interview program, anchored by Mr. Obilo.

The management of the Ibadan-based Splash FM, had shortly afterwards fired one of their best broadcasters, Mr. Edmund Obilo, on Friday on the request of the Oyo State governor, Mr. Abiola Ajimobi.

By Saharareporters, New York

Mr. Obilo has been consistently exposing corruption, and the failure of leadership to stop, or investigate that corruption in Oyo State, under the present administration. This has made Mr. Ajimobi and his cronies to force the owner of the FM Station, Chief Adebayo Akande, to fire Mr. Obilo

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mikel should be used as defensive not attacking mildfielder

Below are qualities an attacking mildfielder should posses.

*.Scores goals from distance.
E.g gerald,lampard

Mikel is very poor here at long shots. Rating 1/10

*.Creates goal scoring e.g iniesta,silva chances.

;mikel hardly creates one. He only spots a player making a goal svoring chance before passing.he hardly creates one himself.-rating 2/10

*.Hits sharp crosses and long balls from anywhere on the field eg gerald, lampard;

mikel was excellent here in 2005. Recently his crosses and corners dont reaxh target -3/10

*speed level – can chase back and defend and get into the goal box.e.g ramirez, oscar.mikel runs slowly.cant fall back. This is why he doesnt attack much.

WANTING THE BALL e.g silva,inesta

Another key quality all attacking midfieders should possess, and really all soccer players, is the desire for the ball at your feet. It’s always asking for and wanting the soccer ball. In soccer, everyone, and especially midfielders, should always ask for the ball and be in position to support their teammates. That’s probably the key aspect, knowing how to offer support and get open so you can be an outlet to your teammate who is under pressure. This means moving off the ball and breaking free from the person who is marking you.mikel doesnt ask for ball – 2/10

penalty /free kick – e.g pirlo,lampard,gerald

mikel freekick cant cross the wall – 3/10.he lacks self confidence in penalty taking

Dribble ;confuse opponent withh body movement,,,mikel isnt a dribbler -2/10.

Hope, you now agree with me that mikel is best as a dmf and lacks attacking qualities

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Who You Are

One fact that cannot change

SAGACIOUS

Bald-Eagle

An eagle is still an eagle even if it never takes flight.
It still remains an eagle even if it decides to become a vegetarian.
Even if it’s wings and feathers are cut off.
Even if its talons and beaks are cut off.
Even if it decides to act like a chicken
An eagle is an eagle not because of its physical features or its current ability. An eagle is an eagle simply because of its “parents”- simple
If not so, then drastically changing their external features or physical capabilities would mean they’d cease being eagles but that is not the case.
Likewise we’re winners. We’re victorious.
We’re stars not because of our great jobs, mansions, businesses, toys and the likes. We’re eagles because of our Father who is in heaven.
Have you been able to count the number of stars yet?
Have you seen the beautiful clouds?
Have you…

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